8 Tips for Foster Carers Fostering Teenagers

Becoming a foster carer for a teenager can be rewarding but it definitely has its challenges. Teenagers are going through a pivotal time in their lives as they transition from childhood to adulthood. As a foster carer, you have the opportunity to provide stability, guidance and encouragement during this formative period. However, teens can sometimes be moody, defiant, and closed off. Today, we will look at eight tips to help you look after and support a teenager in your care.

1. Build Trust 

When a teenager first arrives in your home, they may be hesitant to open up and trust you. Be reliable and patient and respect their space. Let them know you are there for support if needed. Over time, consistency and small acts of care can help build a bond. 

2. Involve Them 

No matter whether you’re fostering in Sunderland or another part of the UK, foster carers should involve teens in decisions about household rules, decor, activities etc. This gives them a sense of control and inclusion. Compromise if you don’t see eye to eye. Make sure to follow through on any agreements. Provide guidance but let them take the lead on areas that matter to them. 

3. Listen without Judgement 

Teens need someone who will listen without judgement, criticism or trying to fix their problems. Being heard is important. Pick up on cues if they need advice but don’t push for details if they aren’t ready. Give them your full attention when listening and reflect on what you hear. Avoid interrupting - let them fully express themselves. 

4. Encourage Open Communication 

Another great tip is to encourage open communication. Set aside time each day to check-in. Ask open-ended questions and share a bit about your day too. Teens often open up during activities like walking, driving or cooking together. Don't force communication - be available and approachable. Pick up on subtle cues they want to talk and give them space if they don't. 

5. Help Them Set Goals 

Sit down together to discuss short and long-term goals e.g. improving grades, learning to drive, planning for uni or work. Outline steps to achieve goals and celebrate progress. Break bigger goals into smaller milestones. Offer guidance, but let goals be teen-driven. Adjust as needed. 

6. Allow Some Independence 

Within agreed boundaries, give teens the freedom to make some of their own decisions around things like clothes, hairstyles and hobbies. This helps build responsibility and self-esteem. Start small and build up independence gradually.  

7. Involve Their Support Network 

With the teen's permission, liaise with their social worker, teachers and birth family. Discuss any issues and ensure you are all providing consistent support. Set up regular check-ins to coordinate efforts. Keep lines of communication open.  

8. Help Them Build Healthy Friendships 

Encourage friendships with positive peers. Make your home welcoming so they can invite friends over. Supervise get-togethers and communicate with other parents as needed. Get to know their friends and offer guidance on peer pressure issues if needed.  

With time, consistency and compassion, you can help guide a young person towards a happy, stable adulthood. Stay patient, involve their support network and let them know you care. By providing a nurturing environment, you can make a lasting difference in a teen's life.